You stepped in horse poo and discovered in a conversation with a disgruntled old lady that a “stallion” isn’t a type of expensive horse, it actually just means a horse that hasn’t been castrated…YET. Here are some tips from my experience that help with adapting to an equestrian lifestyle. Understanding the lingo You’re hanging out with her and her horse riding friends and they’re talking horse stuff. My car would get cleaned atleast once a week due to barn related activities. unless she brings a professional camera and she wants you to use it. You can bet our engagement and wedding photos included her fav horse Cheyenne. You realize very quickly you’ve made a grand error in wearing your brand new clothes you got from Bootlegger and Air Jordans that YOU DID NOT BUY ON CLEARANCE. Most definetly but you need to understand the roles and responsibilities thrust upon you. If there is more than 1 horse to be ridden, call in sick, pack a sleeping bag and grab a Tim Horton’s coffee (or two). Vehicle cleanliness The more I think about it the equestrian lifestyle is probably the reason why I got into car detailing in the first place. I’ve spent the past three years dating as a single mom – including a year-long relationship—and let me tell you something: there is no better time than to date than as a single mom. When I was dating in my twenties, I was looking for a husband with a healthy set of testicles with which to sire children. You survived that, and not only are you better for it – you’re sexier for it. Age and childbearing has allowed you to enjoy your body for all it has to offer. When I met my husband in my mid-twenties, I was still struggling to make my way professionally. When we do have time for boyfriends, we make the very most of it. There is less temptation to piddle away hours waiting on losers to commit just because you’re lonely. I can check that off my life to-do list and look for a man for love or companionship or sex – or all three. Whether the single part was by way of divorce, breakup, death or choice, it was a big deal, and that changed you. I have lunches to make and doctor appointments to schedule. Busy single moms have fewer lonely nights to fill, fewer dinners eaten alone.
The combination of grants for single mothers and housing assistance should get you going in the right direction. Patience is a virtue, more so in some cultures than others. Depending on your geographical location from the barn, you may have to endure a 30mins drive to the barn, possible 10mins just trying to catch the horse, 20mins of brushing and tacking up a horse, 40mins to an hour of actually riding the horse and 20mins again to un-tack the horse and drive 30mins home. If you say you’re going to a horse show, YOU’RE GOING! Crash early the night before because there’s a good chance you’re waking up before the sun and hitting a Timmies drive thru for an XL 4×4 and a couple bagels. It might stink and be full of hair but if you’re cold, wearing one of those does the trick. I have allergies to horses AND hay so believe me when I say that it sucks but you know what we gotta do gentlemen? Take a reactine, build that immunity and show your girl you love her and what she does EVEN if it can potentially close your lungs and cause you’re untimely demise… Tack Shop Etiquette You walk into a tack shop, the smell of fresh leather slaps you in the face. ” If you’re thinking this will be a quick trip, you’re wrong. You’ll score extra points with your girlfriend, her friends and the rest of mankind. Seasons You may think based on all the research and Instagram posts on Equestrians you follow that riding is exclusively a summer sport. Bonus tip, if someone hands you a cooler off their horse, WEAR IT. Through my circle of friends and single moms I meet through this blog, I often hear cries of horror about the thought of single mom dating. What man in his right mind would date someone with so much baggage? People are attracted to these single-mom qualities in a real, meaningful way. Now, I have reached many milestones in my career, relationships, and inner life. Listen: Other ways to listen: i Tunes ♦ Stitcher ♦ Tune In ♦ Sound Cloud ♦ Google Play Nothing breaks my heart more than a woman who cannot be without a man. My single-mom body is a wreck and I haven’t been on a date in 15 years! Confidence, a full heart, and life experience all equals being a richer, fuller person. My longest friendships were still forming, and I was still figuring out what was most important to me. Women with kids have a whole lot of responsibilities. Time is precious, and efficient moms know that the best way to spend time with a man is truly enjoying a really, really great one.