“Even if you think you're 99 percent sure there's something there, there will always be a little ‘What if I'm wrong? “I would be super-embarrassed around my friends if I thought there was something going on, and then I tried to act on it.
In my mind, the person is obviously going to tell everyone.
It may not be as ‘romantic’ as you’d like, but at the end of the day, if a guy is not sure about your interest, he won't swing.”3. Be honest with yourself: Are you on the fence some of the time, unsure if you want to move your friend chemistry into a full-blown relationship? Jeff, a 45-year-old ad agency owner, instantly hit it off with a female co-worker, who he was interested in pursuing after he moved on to a new job. A collection of mixed signals, like skipping my goodbye happy hour and ghosting me on some texts that dropped hints about grabbing dinner,” he says.
Jeff says he still talks to his friend and crush, and they even hung out recently.
If you constantly project how busy you are, that you’re “really into work right now,” or are “just really happy being single,” your guy friend might start to get the wrong message (read: don’t pursue me, please).
“Even if common interest seems to be there, this is a big one,” Sam says.
So the question then becomes: why do we perceive men as the instigators of platonic-based passion and not women?
“I am sure the media hype up sex differences in sexual interest,” Hart says.
“Relationships, platonic or otherwise, are initiated out of mutual interest or compatibility, and the draw of attractiveness is certainly a primary factor,” says Ivankovich.
“Men are often portrayed as ‘dogs’ and only interested in ‘one thing’.
In fact, some of your very best friends are probably members of the opposite sex.
He helped you move apartments last year, and made dinner with all your favorites that week your boss decided to rule with an iron fist.
You two have obvious chemistry—you flirt, you chat, you hang out—but the buck stops there. Since this generation of singles is more emotionally-evolved than ever before, traditional dating norms have basically been tossed out the window, says psychologist Karla Ivankovich, Ph.