Will you start your own traditions, or continue those of your family of origin?What role will our family have when it comes to our life and decision making?Combining two people from two separate families into one is something that many people take lightly.But it’s a topic that can cause much strain and stress if not tackled in part before you say I do. Sex: Our views of sex and sexuality are shaped long before we commit to marriage.From family secrets, to personal choices, from health problems to mental health concerns, this is the time to share things big and small, paving the way for honesty and openness as the foundation of your relationship. Expectations: Because expectations are such a deep-seated part of who we are, we don’t often think about them.But talking about these things gives us a chance to bring them to the surface in a constructive way.
Far beyond planning the particulars of a wedding day, the time of engagement is a really sacred time.Past: When it comes to planning for a marriage it’s crucial to talk about your past, because the past has a role in shaping the present.Whether your past is tainted with pain, or filled with hope- you need to get real with where you come from.What do boundaries look like with friends of the opposite sex, past boyfriends/girlfriends, and even family members.How will we protect our time, guard our emotions, and prevent our bodies from negative interactions with others? Struggles: One thing I know about marriage, is that it magnifies everything. Before you enter the pressure-cooker of marriage, you need to get real with your bad-habits and hang-ups here and now.