(You can tell if you attend such a church, because if you mention a young man to the women at church, the first or second thing they will ask about him is if he is a Christian. It sounds like CO Springs has a pretty great Christian singles dating scene. Just kidding, of course…but I’ve been a little discouraged this weekend.If you say “no” or “I don’t know,” they will immediately advise you never to date a nonbeliever.) But – are you doomed to zero dates over the course of a decade or more, potentially turning down a number of men just because they swore in front of you? I’ll be turning 33 years old this week, and I haven’t ever been on a first date as an adult, let alone a 2nd date.Did he show leadership by picking a venue conducive to conversation?Nope, he took me to a crowded place that he should’ve known would be too loud to talk deeply — six demerits…and that’s a fail for this dude’s godly husband potential.By this point, you are: The young married people you know have fallen into the Young Marrieds Abyss, where conversation now revolves around mini-vans, preschool, coupons for Kohl’s, and recipes on Pinterest.The older married people you know don’t know any young singles to introduce you to, or if they do know anyone unmarried, that person would not be a good match for you.I don’t know how I’ll get to marriage someday (something I highly value, study and prepare for, desire, respect, etc.) if I can’t even get to a first date.
Nope, he was in the bathroom when I ordered, so I had to pay — three demerits.On the one hand, you have the hard-liners who feel that The Bible Says, and if you never go on that first date with a non-Christian, you will never have to deal with all the problems that come from Unequal Yokeage, which is the whole point of The Bible Says in the first place. Those people who have to spend time with their children?They can’t serve at church potlucks and crisis pregnancy centers the way you can.Why not spend some time getting to know someone else? The two positions, as far as I can tell, are irreconcilable.If you go to a church full of The Bible Says-ers, you will be frowned upon if word gets out that you went out with a non-Jesus-lover. And I feel despair when I read comments like this one from Montana Moxie at Boundless: I enjoyed listening to the panel discussion on 2nd dates.